Right now, I’m driving to go pick up my two boys to drive them to school. While this is normally a quick task for many, our boys go to a small private school that is a bit of a distance. It is a one hour drive totally, half to go pick them up, and half to get them to school. Even though it is a lengthy drive, I enjoy it. Not only do I get some extra time in the mornings with my boys, it gives me some solid time to reflect.
A good friend and I were talking about something we see in both the real estate and business world: people identifying their WHY – What’s their purpose in what they are doing.
Everyone does this for different reasons. Some people are just on social media, being flashy.
They are all about the things they own – the STUFF.
While that is not necessarily a bad thing, it is not something I am about.
I’ve learned to look at business differently as I grow older. Certain perspectives come with age. We carry more wisdom through experience and having people in our lives that really show us.
So we were discussing how certain people in this business want to be really flashy, and you see that every day on Facebook and Instagram.
It’s about the cars. It’s about the houses. It’s about the LIFESTYLE.
To each their own, but, I’m learning how much more I appreciate and look at business differently now.
As I mentioned earlier, I’m on my way to pick up my boys to take them to their small private school. While I don’t say that to brag, it IS an important part of this reflection.
Originally, we put them in a local public school. After we picked them up the first day, they were just so bummed. Apparently, there was an incident that really brought them down. A teacher had called out my older son.
No, I’m not one to say my kids are perfect and do no wrong.
I’m definitely not that guy.
We raise our kids to be very respectful, and typically side with teachers or authority figures when it comes to our kids.
They say it takes a village, and you have to realize that kids can lie and manipulate. It is just human nature. We need to give those we have placed our kids’ care in the hands of the benefit of the doubt and empower them to do their jobs. It is also an important lesson for our kids in navigating the world as adults.
However, I know my son. I know when something is truly, sincerely bothering him. I can tell when he’s done something wrong, and when he is just standing by what he feels is right.
So the teacher called out my son, and I could tell it bummed him, not because he got in trouble, but because he felt cut down. This was couple with me beginning to see some gaps in the school and the kids’ education.
I want to preface with saying that I respect public school teachers. I know that they truly care and give as much as they can. However, we dump a lot on them ,and they are largely underpaid for the amount of value they bring. This massive overwhelm and stress that the system puts on them can trickle down to the kids.
And that isn’t their fault. I want my kids to have the best education I can provide for them, and we just weren’t comfortable with what was happening at this particular school.
We had previously looked at this small private Christian school, but the kids had done fine in their previous public schools. We opted to keep that system in place, until we were no longer happy with this school.
We made the last minute decision to move them to the private school.
Now, private school is not cheap. It was definitely a stretch, but it was a
key moment. It cause a big mindset shift in how I viewed business. I had a new appreciation for it.
I’m so thankful that we live in a country that gives you the freedom to be able to start a business, and really build the lifestyle you want. It won’t come overnight, and it takes time and effort, but we all have that opportunit
For a long time, I didn’t appreciate that. You get so caught up in the everyday hustle and grind of what you do, that you can often miss the opportunity to reflect.
In my mindset shift, I began to realize business as a tool to build the lifestyle I want. Because of what I had spent the last couple of years building, I was now in the position to have a choice about my kids’ education. My hard work had paid off.
The lifestyle I want doesn’t involve bigger houses, dream cars, and fancy toys. It involves CHOICES, and especially, choices for my kids.
Many parents wish they could provide more for their children in terms of education, and in experience. Even the greatest parents sometimes don’t have those opportunities because of restrictions in time and finances. They are employees, trading time for money, and only having so much of that time to trade.
As a business owner, not only do we have the ability to earn more income in less time, we have FLEXIBILITY. We are no longer trading time for money, and can choose where our time is spent, rather than living by the punch-clock.
This mindset shift really inspired me to knuckle down and make sure I am growing a business that I’m working on, not in. I took a hard look at my processes and systems to evaluate how my business can run without me.
What if I want to go pick my kid up in the middle of the day, or have the time to do this daily commute to drop them off? I love having that freedom.
I also feel more challenged to not just work my businesses, but to build them. I’ve always had the desire, but now, I have new motivation and drive to really build in a way that allows me to come and go as I please.
Don’t get me wrong. I LOVE the work I do, and I like the hustle. I get a lot of joy out of it, but at the end of the day, my kids come first, and I want the freedom to invest my time into them.
That’s the key. Stuff can be replaced, but time is something you can never take back.
“There’s a myth that time is money. In fact, time is more precious than money. It’s a nonrenewable resource. Once you’ve spent it, and if you’ve spent it badly, it’s gone forever.” ~ Neil A. Fiore
Life is going by so fast, and I don’t want to live a life where I never spend time with my kids. This is a critical stage in their lives and I want to have and impact on it. Whether they’re in second grade, fifth grade, elementary school, or highschool, I want to enjoy every moment.
That’s my why. What is your why? Why are you doing the things you do?
While there is nothing wrong with wanting stuff, I encourage you to look at business in a new way. Look around at how you can use it to impact your community, your church, or life around you.
Ultimately, let your business establish a lifestyle where you’re not only able to provide for your family, but to provide them with experiences they would never have been able to experience, otherwise.
If you’ve joined me on this journey through this lengthy reflection, thank you. I hope you have found some encouragement and clarity throughout, as that is my goal with this blog. I don’t just want to bring you tips and insights on online lead generation, but also share with you nuggets of truth I’ve discovered throughout my own experiences.
See you in the next post.